I love goals! I love setting goals and thinking of the steps to get there. This can be anything from
reading a book to meal planning to cleaning to career paths. Because of this, I love January. It is fun for
me to think of what I may accomplish in the next year. However, what tends to happen is I pick too
many goals – or a goal that is not achievable and I set myself up to fail. I tend to be an all or nothing
person and once I see the path slipping, I give up.
This can apply to our parenting. We are hard on ourselves as parents and see our weaknesses as
failures. I will often times wake up saying today I will not ….fill in the blank or I will…fill in the blank.
With this black and white thinking or all or nothing, we are not allowing for mistakes. I am beginning to
learn that my kids learn more from my mistakes and short comings than they do if everything were to be
perfect. When I tell the kids we aren’t going to have screen time, I won’t yell and we will go to the park
every day…. They will see my weaknesses. BUT! When I forget and we don’t make it to the park and I go
to them afterwards and apologize, seeking forgiveness – they are learning that they are not defined by
their short comings. They are a human with a sinful nature. They will see the gift of forgiveness and
humility. This will set them up not only for future relationships but with their ultimate relationship with
I am learning that small steps in the right direction are better than large leaps in the wrong direction.
So, with our topic of Classroom Management this month, for our families, we want to challenge you to
look at your routines. Don’t wake up and say, today I’m going to make home cooked meals, pray before
each one, go to the park, spend one on one time with each child with all smiles and singing. Instead,
pick one thing. A habit takes at least three weeks to set as routine. This means, we should choose one
thing to implement and stick with it until it becomes routine. Then you can always add another.
I’m hoping we can encourage and remind each other that our small steps matter! This article from
Focus on the Family had some great ideas for small steps: 8 Small Resolutions That Can Change Your
Family – Focus on the Family. I hope you can find something here or one of your own and make solid
routines that help strengthen your family. I would love to hear from you! Please send me an email with
things that have worked for you so I can pass it on to others! email@example.com
On January 31, we will be offering a class about challenging behaviors. We hope more of you will join us
to hear from the Center for Inclusive Childcare (CICC) on Seven Common Reasons for Challenging
Behavior. “Behaviors that challenge adults occur in many forms during the early childhood years. These
behaviors may limit a child’s ability to learn, grow, and interact successfully with the world around them.
This session will discuss the seven most common reasons for challenging behavior. When we are able to
understand the why behind the behavior we can successfully develop and implement strategies that
provide lasting success for young children and for you as parents.”
Please plan to join us at our Brooklyn Park location from 6pm-7pm. Childcare is full for toddlers and
preschool but we have limited spots available for infants. Please sign up here: January 2023 Parent Night
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